💜 Choose a calm, quiet and safe environment, not during meal times or when the person is stressed or anxious
💜 Use ‘I’ statements, not ‘you’ statements to avoid placing the blame on the individual
- “I’ve been worried about you lately”
- “I’ve noticed you’ve been a bit preoccupied lately…”
💜 Don’t focus solely on food or their weight
- Focus on your concern for their health and how they are feeling and behaving.
- “I’ve noticed that you’ve been withdrawn and upset lately. I’m worried about XYZ behaviour – What’s going on?”
💜 Be compassionate
- Discuss your concerns with the person in an open and honest way, aiming to be non-judgmental, respectful and kind.
- Acknowledge their feelings and repeat back what they have said to show you understand. “What I am hearing is….” “I understand you are feeling (insert emotion), is that right?” and “Thank you for sharing that with me”
- Let them know you are not trying to fix their behaviours or get them to change immediately but explain their behaviours may indicate there is a problem that needs professional help.
“People not commenting on my body changing would’ve helped.” – Georgina, 27, VIC.
“Always ensure the individual feels in control of their of choices they can make; validating them is essential for effective support.” – Samantha, 47, WA